Speaking up is tough. Regardless of if we’re up against a group consensus, a lone wolf with their mind made up, or an entire institution, it feels pointless to be the lone objector. Why speak up when it might be more trouble than it’s worth?
Before deciding on a course of action, it’s important to consider why we want to object. Are we feeling self-righteous, indignant, or even childish? Do we simply crave attention which, once given, we’ll be satisfied with and recede into the fray? Or is it because we care? Do we want to speak out because we crave change, a movement toward something better?
It’s obvious that our intent matters. The trouble is, it’s hard to interpret what our true motivations are, especially when we’re frustrated. Do we struggle to contain our emotion because we care so much, or because our inner child feels a tantrum coming on?
First, check your intent. Dig deep. If it’s a temper tantrum, walk away. If it’s not though, if you realize that you sincerely care about what’s happening, you face a decision: recede into apathy, or step up and speak out.
Yes it’s hard. Yes it might be more trouble than it’s worth. But understand that healthy conflict is essential to life, and that with integrity of emotion, things will work out. If not, at least you’ll go out caring.